Lindy’s Blog: Where Mom is Always Right

January 27, 2010

To call one’s self “pro-choice” implies, well, a CHOICE

Filed under: abortion — by lindyborer @ 7:36 am
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So apparently there’s this big kerfuffle involving a commercial by Focus On the Family featuring Tim Tebow and his mom that’s set to air during the Super Bowl.  Read about it here.  It’s a pro-life ad which chronicles the 1987 against-the-odds birth of the Heisman winner.  His mother was encouraged to abort her son due to an illness she acquired during her pregnancy with him.  She ignored this advice from her doctors and gave birth to Tim, who has gone on to accomplish some pretty amazing things. 

The usual suspects (“Womens’ groups”) are throwing a hissy-fit over the ad, even though no one–including them–has seen it yet.  They claim that it advances a pro-life agenda. 

Oh, how terrible to comprehend!  What filth, what tripe, what downright evil–that a commercial might influence someone to choose LIFE?!?  What a horrible thing that a commercial might provide encouragement to a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy to…NOT kill her baby!!

Focus on the Family claims that it’s really quite tame and that it basically relates an uplifting, pro-family story with a really happy ending. 

My question is this:  Why is it that supposedly “pro-choice” groups have such a hard time hearing about such stories?  What about the fact that a mom CHOSE to have a baby–and that baby just happened to grow up to accomplish marvelous things–is so vulgar to them?  After all,  being “pro-choice” implies that one is equally fine with either choice chosen.  These supposedly “pro-choice” groups really become transparent each time they make a huge deal out of these stories with happy endings.  I mean, what kind of people hear such stories and grow so irrationally angry?

Let me attempt to answer my own question.  The kind of people who are not, in fact, pro-CHOICE.  They are simpy pro-ABORTION, and their unwillingness to celebrate good and happy endings with the rest of us just really makes them look, well, twisted

(Besides, am I the only one who actually looks forward to there being a Super Bowl commercial that doesn’t feature some mostly naked woman pushing tortilla chips or beer?  How is that message “good” for women?  What message does that send to my little boy and girl?)

Bring on the ad, I say, and further reveal the sickness of the pro-abortion movement.

RELATED:  Sarah Palin decimates NOW on her Facebook page–awesome.

January 22, 2010

In which I take on the “C” word.

Filed under: childbirth,Health — by lindyborer @ 8:07 am
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Photo of a baby boy, mid-cut. photo credit: Amy Arbus

As usual, I seem to have an affinity for leaving things like this to the last possible minute, and I have a hunch that because I’ve done so this baby will most likely be a boy (Murphy’s Law has a 99.9% chance of applying to me).  I’ve been in somewhat of a quandary regarding a topic of which is seldom spoken, but highly charged among parenting circles.

Nope, not vaccination.  The C-word.  Circumcision.  There.  I said it.

Okay, as usual, I try to keep things balanced here at Lindy’s (take that however you wish.)  Those of you who are recent parents realize the sensitive subject matter that circumcision is.  Let me just say this up front:  We are going to circumcise our son if this baby is a boy.  I would be just fine not doing it; however, my husband would not.  I realize that many in the “NOCIRC” camp will automatically call me a barbarian and equate our actions as the equivalent to the male form of genital mutiliation.  I realize those on the other side of the debate will think I’m stupid for even entertaining the notion of NOT getting my son snipped. 

Let me cut to the point (no pun intended):  I’m simply trying to research the possibility of getting a “dorsal penile nerve block”–that’s local anesthetic, much like Novacaine at the dentist–for the baby prior to the placing of a scalpel to what I’m told is a highly sensitive area.

Now, it’s always good to step away from “what is and what has always been done,” and to actually–with a pure mind–run the scenario through one’s head.  According to Dr. Sears (who I’ve generally found to be quite balanced and who has performed thousands of circs himself), this is how a circumcision today is commonly performed on infants before they leave the hospital:

Baby is placed on a restraining board, and straps secure his hands and feet. The tight adhesions between the foreskin and the glans (or head) of the penis are separated with a medical instrument. The foreskin is held in place by metal clamps while a cut is made into the foreskin to about one-third of its length. A metal or plastic bell is placed over the head of the penis to protect the glans, and the foreskin is pulled up over the bell and the circumferentially cut.

Easy as pie!  Sounds quite painless.  Oh wait, except that it totally DOESN’T!!!!

Let me back up.  When my first child was born, I really hadn’t looked into this at all.  When the time came for my son to go under the knife, inner reservations surfaced, but a voice in my head told me, “We live in an enlightened age.  Surely the common argument that newborns’ nervous systems aren’t fully developed and it doesn’t hurt them is completely research-based, because how could we as a society just allow a poor defenseless newborn to get his foreskin ripped away without local anesthetic on a routine basis?”  (Of course, this same “enlightened” society allows for much worse with abortion, but I digress…)

Feeling somewhat better, the nurse then came in to get my son and flippantly told us to “take a walk so you won’t hear him scream,”  and then that abhorrent woman LAUGHED.  That is something that I have never forgotten. 

Since then, I’ve learned that babies who “seem to fall into a deep sleep toward the end of the procedure” have actually passed out from the pain.  Ahem.  I AM a barbarian.

I emailed a friend about this yesterday; she has two boys.  She related this anecdote:

I was concerned about the pain, too.  At that time, we had a female pediatrician who did the procedure and this is what I remember her saying when she brought him to me afterwards—she said that yes, it hurts like the devil, and they always cry…but they can be comforted and within minutes they are fine.  And that’s the difference between pain and agony.  That has always stuck with me. 

No shit.

Her sisters, who have seven uncircumcised boys between them, likewise chimed in.  One said:

When Bryan and I realized that the ONLY reason we were being encouraged to have the boys circumcized was so they wouldn’t be laughed at in the locker room, we decided that that just wasn’t a good enough reason to have a piece of skin ripped off our little boys’ you-know-whats when they were hours old, with no anesthetic.  It was a Jewish tradition.  We’re not Jews.  Ergo, we didn’t have it done.  I don’t know anything about the block, but it sounds like a good idea to me.

Which is so true.  The locker room argument, I’ve found, is one of the top arguments in favor of the procedure.  (Must be a brutal place.)  The pressure to “look like one’s peers” is actually becoming less and less relevant, though, because more and more parents are not getting it done.  This may come as a surprise to folks my parents’ age, but it’s true.  Several friends of ours have chosen to forego the procedure for their boys. 

So, I guess there might be a new meaning to the phrase “shirts vs. skins” in locker room lingo in the near future. 

Back to Dr. Sears.  In answering the question, “Does it hurt?” he says:

Yes, it hurts. The skin of the penis of a newborn baby has pain receptors completely sensitive to clamping and cutting. The myth that newborns do not feel pain came from the observation that newborns sometimes withdraw into a deep sleep toward the end of the operation. This does not mean that they do not feel pain. Falling into a deep sleep is a retreat mechanism, a withdrawal reaction as a consequence of overwhelming pain. Not only does circumcision cause pain in the penis, the newborns over all physiology is upset. New research shows that during unanaesthetized circumcision, stress hormones rise, the heart rate speeds, and valuable blood oxygen diminishes. Babies should never be subjected to the shock of unanaesthetized circumcision.

Can the baby have anesthesia to lessen the pain?

Yes, a local anesthetic can and should be used. Painless circumcision should be a birthright. I have used a local anesthesia in nearly a thousand babies for over twenty years. It is a safe procedure and it works. Sometimes the anesthetic will not remove all the pain, but it certainly helps. Within a few hours, after the anesthetic wears off, some babies exhibit no discomfort; others will fuss for the next twenty-four hours. The most common and effective method is called a dorsal penile nerve block, in which a few drops of Xylocaine (similar to the anesthetic your dentist uses) is injected into the nerves on each side of the penis circumferentially around the base of the penis.

So there ya go.  That’s where I’m at.  I simply don’t know if a block is available around here.  I’ve heard mention of some sort of “plastic cap.”  Anyone know if this is just a convenience thing, or a mechanism to lessen the pain? 

One final argument that has been most commonly thrown at me when I’ve brought this up:  “They don’t remember it.”  Can I just say how completely stupid this is, on so many levels?  You know, I don’t remember most of my life up to probably age three or four; does this then make it okay to scrimp on anesthesia during common childhood maladies (like tonsillectomies, for example?)  How utterly ridiculous.  Mom and Dad could have saved some money when I had to get stitches at age two! 

For those out there who persist in thinking I’m off my rocker, fine, but let me just say that we mothers–especially those of us who still have small children and are about to have a baby–we’re a ruthless set.  We are like the grizzly mothers who will not hesitate to maul and kill in order to protect our young.  And that is the frame of mind that leads me to question this procedure the way it’s currently done. 

In my informal survey of asking the males in my life if they, themselves, would elect to be circumcised NOW without some sort of block, they abruptly and deliciously change their tune.  Which, to me, says it all.

Can anyone out there give me some insight?

January 20, 2010

Plain funny

Filed under: politics,Uncategorized — by lindyborer @ 8:32 am
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Hitler finds out Scott Brown wins in Massachusetts:

There’s a multiude of versions of this, I know, but this is really very funny.

A turning point

Filed under: health care,politics — by lindyborer @ 7:23 am
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Republican Scott Brown wins the “Kennedy seat” in Massachusetts.   Rasmussen reports that he won over independents 73/25.  Democratic heads are exploding all over the fruited plain.  I can’t wipe the silly grin off my face.

I could go into great detail about how completely unprecedented this is, but those who are paying attention already know.  Interesting to me will be how Obama/Pelosi/Reid but especially the Blue Dogs in the House and Senate will respond. 

Scenario A:  They will continue, kamikaze-style, to push through with their ultra-liberal policies (govt. run healthcare, cap and trade) by passing the Senate version of healthcare or delaying Brown’s seating.  They’ll claim that the MA election defeat of Coakley is due to the voters’ “misunderstandings” or their “oppositon for opposition’s sake.”  To which I say, go right ahead and do just that.  Further insult the intelligence of We the People.  Continue to call us “teabaggers” and characterize us as ignorant and uneducated.  Because the more they do, the more they imperil themselves in midterms and in 2012.  Recall, just last week our own Ben Nelson faced the wrath of NE voters as they booed him out of a pizzaria in Omaha.  I’m sure he’s remembering that about now, too.

Scenario B:  Obama will come to his senses and move to the middle, scrap this wildly unpopular piece of crap healthcare legislation, and start over.

I have a hard time envisioning Obama moving to the middle.  I simply don’t know if he’s capable of it.  I think he’s so innately statist and ideological that it would almost be humanly impossible for him to do it.  But think for a moment what must be running through his head right now.  

Here he is, on the one year anniversary of his Inauguration, with the big State of the Union speech looming, and he just got b***h-slapped by voters in traditionally blue MASSACHUSETTS.  While the state-run media will attempt to spin Coakley’s defeat soleley on Coakley herself (of which she did play a tremendous part), they will suddenly forget that it was Obama himself who went to MA to campaign for her and to himself make the election, in large part, about healthcare and a referendum on his agenda.  (Scott Brown, too, made his opposition to this version of healthcare reform a central tenet of his campaign–something the voters obviously approved.)

The far-left is angry with him for a variety of reasons (one of which being he’s not left enough), and he’s completely losing independents because he’s too far left.  Unemployment is still in double digits, and virtually every industry in the private sector has a big target painted on its back by the Obama administration, and by extension, anyone who works in the private sector.  The Blue Dogs are already running scared, and the Republicans (thanks to the huge grassroots Tea Party movement) now have the momentum.  Every shred of reason in a person’s brain would be shouting, “Reverse course!  Steer to the middle!”  That’s what Clinton did.

But something tells me that this won’t happen with Barack Obama.  (I will eat my words if I must.)  Never, I don’t think, have we had as President such a complete and total narcissist.  Obama has placed all his chips on healthcare reform (with the full-blown, statist power and control that would come with it), and to scrap it now would irreparably damage his ego, and he knows it.  Govt. run healthcare is the easiest and best way for him to implement his statist goals for this country, and he will cling to it for as long as he is able.   It goes beyond saving face for him; it is a matter of self-preservation.

But for now, let’s all bask in the glow of this huge victory of liberty over tyranny.  Thank you, people of Massachusetts.

UPDATE:  A simply devastating rebuttal to the David Brooks’ of the world.  A must-read.  (It’s quite short and to the point.)

UPDATE 2:  Here’s a good post-election analysis, courtesy of Ed Morrissey.

January 12, 2010

On “nesting”

Filed under: childbirth,Family,This and that... — by lindyborer @ 4:45 pm
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I’ve talked it over with other moms, and many of us have come to the conclusion that we hate–actually even loathe–the term “nesting.”   For those who might not have heard the term, it is used to describe the actions of late-in-pregnancy women who are are suddenly stricken with the urge to clean the entire house top-to-bottom or engage in other tasks such as updating existing childrens’ baby books, putting photos in the album, washing the drapery, etc…The term suggests a purely biological, instinctual set of behaviors that overcomes a woman about to give birth with no actual conscious thought on her part.  In other words, we’re blindly preparing the nest for the new offspring.  A bumbling mother hen always comes to mind when I hear the term. 

I humbly assert that there’s nothing unconscious about it.  I like to think of it as “thinking ahead,” “being practical,” or “preparing for total life disruption.”   

I’m not sure if this is a universal thing or not, but I’ll just say that when I casually mention to a person that I’m going to prepare a few casseroles to freeze for when the baby comes, and that person immediately assumes that smug, knowing, and slightly condescending look before stating smarmily that, “Someone’s NESTING!” I have to exercise superhuman restraint in not shouting back at them, “ACTUALLY, I REALIZE THAT IN JUST A FEW WEEKS I’LL BE COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR MEETING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING’S EVERY WHIM, DAY AND NIGHT, IN ADDITION  TO THOSE OF THE TWO CHILDREN I ALREADY HAVE.  I AM PREPARING SOME SIMPLE MEALS TO MAKE LIFE A LITTLE EASIER.  I’M NOT NESTING, I’M EXERCISING SOME GRAY MATTER.”  

Thank you, I feel much better now.

January 8, 2010

Bra color and awareness

Filed under: This and that... — by lindyborer @ 6:17 am
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Just have to write this here or explode. 

Facebook–it is probably the thing that has the most grown-ups acting like teenagers that I’ve ever encountered.  Yes, I am on Facebook.  Yes, it’s a good way to spread information and to keep in touch.  And yes, it’s a good way to waste countless hours of your time and to realize that we’re all just a bunch of sub-moronic adolescents who can’t seem to break away from the high school mentality. 

NOTE:  This applies much more to some than to others.  And yes, I am venting.

Yesterday people were writing colors for their status updates.  

(For those of you smart individuals out there who are not Facebook users, a status update is just that: an update someone writes about what they’re doing, what’s on their mind at that particular moment, etc…Yes, this can turn for many into a minute-by-minute account of the most mundane and personal activities imaginable.  TMI comes to mind more than once.)

Many (like me) were left to wonder what this was all about, and then I found out that it was another one of those absolutely worthless ploys to “raise awareness for breast cancer” shenanigans by posting the color of the bra you were sporting that day.  First of all, can I say how retarded this is?  I can see this being a popular activity back in junior high.  Secondly, is anyone else out there completely sick and tired of the words “raising awareness”?  You know what, I think we’re all plenty “aware” of breast cancer by now.  And coincidentally, being “aware” of breast cancer does nothing, really, about it.  And posting the color of the bra you’re wearing to raise “awareness” will do nothing to combat breast cancer. 

Yes, I realize it’s all in good fun.  But I still think it’s retarded.

And, in case anyone really wanted to know:  Dingy, grayish white with portions of pale yellow.  I feel so much more aware now, don’t you?

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